Let In Get Out

The fear of the unknown often keeps us stuck in a bad places, simply because it seems convenient to do so. We even stay in bad situations from fear – believing that it’s better to have something lousy than have nothing at all. It’s a tragic mindset that holds many back from living a fulfilling life. As the expression goes, “better the devil you know than the one you don’t.” However, why settle for having a devil at all when you can be free and move forward?

Freedom is often terrifying to people – too many options and choices can cause our minds to become overwhelmed – resulting in stagnation. We can only fool ourselves so long before we cause a great deal of inner tension. If feelings are suppressed long enough, then perhaps a lifestyle of dull mediocrity may ensue. Sounds scary? Well, it is, but it’s never too late, especially if you are actually reading a blog like this, then chances are that you are more conscious with what’s inside that you think.

There’s a little child inside all of us - well, that may sound a bit too new age. I’m not going to make any spiritual correlations or presumptions about that term. But, there is a sense of happiness we find in illogical, silly things. Our minds need to get out of the surface restrictions of society’s expectations to fit in. Every movie usually shows the lead character as a cool person is often tough, independent, rigid, and doesn’t play around. On a side note - Robert Downey Jr. is an exception (and an excellent actor), but his logical and sharp wit makes up for his playful side.

Regardless, we can’t have movie and musicians be our examples of what cool or realistic behavior is. Facades and marketing show the media what everyone wants - a person to admire, and later scrutinize, in hopes of watching them mess things up. Then, repeat the cycle on someone new. It’s amazing how many people love to idolize someone but later love to see tabloids on how this perfect person’s life is falling apart - giving people a sense a relatability to their “idol.” Alright, my inner psychologist will take a break now.

On a happier note – make time to do what you like to do, even if it seems silly. Life is meant to be enjoyed not be a passing charade. Everyone cares what others think about them to a certain degree, and that’s normal – we do need to respect the boundaries of others. However, if someone doesn’t like you because you like to sing Michael Bolton in a karaoke room, then it’s a silly thing to fight about. Also, don’t try to change the silliness of someone else; it will just cause repression or resentment against you. If it’s a matter of immaturity, rather than a fun indulgence, then that person or you will grow when they are ready to grow.

For further related reading, please check out: Content With Yourself.