The Introvert

Whether someone is defined as an introvert or an extravert is sometimes relevant to what situation they are put in. Of course, those who naturally feel comfortable when socializing without feeling shy, especially when meeting new people and acquaintances would often be thought of as an extrovert. The extrovert is often valued because they exude a kind of confidence that others are drawn too. Meanwhile, the natural introvert may feel less valued when society seems to put a higher value upon confidence, charisma, and an outspoken nature.

While it’s great to be confident, one should be careful when associating confidence with someone who happens to speak whatever is on his or her mind without much of a filter. These people may give the impression that they are confident but may rude, arrogant, socially inept, or simply covering up insecurity. The one talking the loudest doesn’t default as being the most right, no matter how inclined the crowd may feel to following them.

The introvert isn’t always an insecure bundle of nerves, but sometimes they are. Just as the extrovert may exhibit their behavior for a variety of reasons, we can’t be quick to judge or label the introvert without digging further beneath their behavior.

People often pick on the “weak” and the soft-spoken because they seen as easy targets. However, life is extremely versatile and can take us to unexpected places. Someone who may initially be associated as being an extravert may go through some life experience, which causes him or her to reflect on things differently, and a period of introspection may ensue. Were they strong and now weak? No, but a change has happened, and it may be temporary, but it could be permanent. So, why does this matter?

Both the introvert and extrovert are capable of doing great and amazing things. Being loud and opinionated doesn’t mean that you are doing something helpful or right. The introvert may be quite adept at creating art because of the attention to detail within one’s emotional state. The introvert also may have a keen sense of moral responsibility.

An introvert shouldn’t feel ashamed of being quiet, uncomfortable, or awkward – it’s totally acceptable to grow, learn, and develop. A life free from pain means a life free from growth. Society likes to put an emphasis on extremes. Often it’s something along the lines of, “I must do everything I can to be successful, powerful, and change the world.” While there is nothing wrong with being successful, we easily forget that life is meant to be lived and enjoyed – and, we are imperfect. No one can completely change the world, nor are we expected to. However, we can make our mark in it by doing something positive and bigger than ourselves.

As long as we have a heart to do what’s right and we can accept our imperfections, then we are free to utilize our potential. A perfectionist sabotages themselves with unrealistic expectations. Perfectionism doesn’t even allow one to maximize the good he or she can do because the self-esteem is cut down. The thinking of, “If I can’t do anything perfect, than why try at all?” hinders progress.

Focus on doing what’s right; all the details in-between are small and unnecessary matters. God provides the path for us to walk upon, even if it doesn’t seem “great” “grandiose” or “influential.” A humble heart goes a long way into doing a lot of good – not a prideful heart, no matter how well disguised the intentions may appear. Our actions are for God’s glory, not our own.

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