The Genuine Person

Everyone can tell a fake personality – it’s just kind of the hunch you feel. It’s not usually a matter of finding inconsistencies, but rather it seems like the person is somewhat 2 dimensional. This is often the kind of person that wants to agree with you all the time or is hesitant to express any idea that may not resonate with the group. Ironically, the person who most seeks acceptance won’t get it on the level they wish.

People are drawn to trendsetters, and again ironically, trendsetters are the type of people who don’t care about what others think. What draws us to genuine people is that we may often find that they are reliable and consistent in behavior. Genuine people don’t need to go through the additional filter of, “Will I still be cool and acceptable if I say this?”

Most of us have heard the expression, “It’s better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you aren’t.” That’s so true, but it can be hard to be hated, so it can be easy to cop out and try to play it safe. However, we’ll never find the peace and self-respect that we all desire. There are times we just need to draw a line, and do what we believe is the right thing to do. However, how do you teach or learn confidence when you’re terrified to be unpopular or disrespected for you beliefs? We can’t actually please everyone.

Life’s lessons are not usually as elusive as we may think. Many think that deep mediation or talking with a sage living in the mountains of Tibet may provide us with that obscure little gem of knowledge we’re searching for. However, living in integrity can solve most of life’s internal problems. When we choose to do what’s right, we’re not creating an internal conflict. The path is also made clear for us. This is what builds confidence, courage, and develops bravery. If we don’t respect ourselves, then how could we stand strongly on what we say?

Most of the time, we aren’t honest with ourselves. We not only try to fool other people, but we try to fool ourselves. Perhaps it’s easy to shrug off our failures and insecurities by saying that no one is perfect, so we don’t need to try hard. Well, it’s true that no one is perfect, but we still have responsibility to do the best we can with this life.

Quality of life can exceed our expectations – we sometimes have no idea until we actually start stepping in that right direction and unlock our dormant potential. Being genuine develops character, respect, and allows us to really connect with others (and disconnect from others – toxic people that drain our time and energy).

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