Family & Connection

We can’t choose our family (except for who we marry) - they of course, make a vital impact in our life. Sometimes they make the best relations and other times they just piss us off. It’s best not to burn bridges when it’s possible to avoid, but sometimes if things are rough, then space and distance is needed.

I’ve lived in Korea for over five years now – I’ve spent half of my twenties in South Korea. It’s amazing to think, but I’m also curious on what’s led me to be here. I’ve had somewhat limited contact with my friends and family since I’ve left, aside from webcam and occasional visits home.

I’ve noticed a big difference between Korea and the United States in regards to family. Koreans are pretty socially connected to their families – it’s important for them to keep social relationships and family close. I believe this is why there is less animosity and hate crimes in comparison to the US. People in isolation tend to get a little bit dicey when they spend too much time disconnected from society and social groups.

From my studies in anthropology, I’ve noticed the same thing with aboriginal and egalitarian groups - they have a time for everything. They spend time in groups - they work together, they trade, and they spend time together in the evening. Work stops when the sun goes down and it’s then time to socialize. Ironically, living outdoors in nature is dangerous, but aboriginal groups tend to be healthier because of this balance. On the other hand, they do (did) die at a younger age because of illness that is preventable by modern medicine. Pros and cons, I suppose.

Modern society has escalated more than our natural bodies and minds can keep up with. The growth of technology has been inevitable, and it does have enormous benefits. However, we do need to respect the most basic needs of our bodies and not cut off its primary needs. Sunlight, nature, fresh air – these are all needed to function well. Fluorescent lights, white walls, and artificial environments do more damage than we know until we’re already way out of balance.

Family is an important part of life – one of our biggest joys (hopefully). There are fewer things in life more satisfying than having quality relationships and nurturing their growth. We’re all social creatures - no matter how introverted we may be, we need a solid support and safe place to be.

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